Has your spouse or significant other ever slid in an offensive zinger about you and when you object, he/she claims, “Oh, I was just kidding. you have no sense of humor.” Has this occurred more than once?
If your partner puts you on notice that your “joke” was hurtful, do not persist in defending it as “funny”. This stance disrespects their feelings and takes your emotional intelligence down a few notches. Instead, apologize and take note. Comments are not funny if they are at the expense of someone who finds them hurtful. Be smart about the emotions in your relationship.